When did I find a woman's ass?（different fashion senses: 5）

"When did I find a woman's ass?"

is the question
nobody asks me
So I ask myself

I remember the exact moment when I found it

I was 25 years old then

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That night
I was meeting my "naughty" "dirty" friend
in a bar in some anonymous city in Western Europe

At some point,
he lowered his voice & said

"Aki.....Look at that ass.......OMG, what an ass!!"

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Strangely enough,

until that moment,

I was totally un-aware
men seeing woman's butt in this way

Totally un-aware
the butt is one of the biggest, if not the most, attractive parts for men

This "discovery" felt like almost
a revelation & enlightenment
from Jesus Christ & Buddha & some other Gods

I'd never paid this kind of attention to that part of female body

Rather, I should say,
a butt never brought an excitement to me

Rather,
I found a female butt slightly off-putting

But once I realised this mechanism;

"Many men (male Europeans, at least) in the 21st century are attracted to a female butt"

it dissolved a lot of mysteries I was having in Europe

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"Why lots of female clothes in Europe emphasises their butt?"

"Why lots of women in dating apps & social media take a selfies in a strange position?
...........slightly turning back in front of the mirror and take a photo of their back, or side, as if showing their butt........"

"Why my ex-girlfriend happily told me her butt had got bigger after she began a gym class?"

"Why that lady in London looked so happy & proud while telling me her experience in Japan..........
..........You know, when I went to a public bath, many Japanese women looked at my 'curvy body'.........."

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............Countless number of tiny episodes that a woman seemed secretly proud of her butt, or a woman who was quietly insecure about it

And every single time, I could not get it

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Then
why could I not find a woman's ass for 25 years?

Probably two reasons

One is the external reason
The other is the internal reason

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"External reason" means
my cultural/environmental influence

Firstly
Japanese body is thin, flat & monotonous

Besides, culturally
Japanese uses clothes for hiding their body,
not for emphasising it, like Europeans

In Japan
women are rather ashamed if their butt is
"opinionated" or "outspoken" or "assertive"

There are many clothes that intentionally hide this part

Apparently,
in such an environment,
an idea of "Sexy" is forever foreign

A core concept of "Sexy" is
tightly tied with one's body

Showing skin more
Emphasising body more

are considered

more "Sexy"

However
focusing on one's body is exactly an anti-pattern in Japanese clothing culture

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"Internal reason" means
my personal conditions & preferences

Due to the cultural influences above,
I don't really have an appreciation to
female fashion that shows/highlights some parts of their body

Rather,
I tend to find Europeans' simplistic fashion "Too straightforward" and/or "Lack of sophistication"

My corrupted Japanese Hentai DNA demands some more tricks & gimmicks

In other words
I'm not attracted to "assertive" female body

Or, actually
I'm even slightly annoyed by "excessive" female physicality

Just like
when we see an emotionally expressive person,
it feels "too much", "annoying" & "tiring"

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I was wondering;

"Why do I have such a sentiment?"

"Why do I feel annoyed by "too much" female physicality?"

The reason turned to be very simple

It was because
I have zero interest in my own body

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Throughout my life,
I never desired to have a muscle or build up my body

Rather, I prefer not at all

Because
it affects my clothing

Because
it affects my aesthetics in fashion

Because
it affects my sense of beauty

For fashion I like,
masculine physique or well-built body are something that should never exist

My priority is always

"if my clothes looks beautiful with my body or not?"

absolutely not

"if my body looks beautiful with my clothes or not?"

This approach of mine is
exactly the opposite to Europeans

who use clothes for enhancing the beauty of their body
who put their body first, then their clothes

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"Putting clothes above body"

From where did I get this approach?

For a long time,
I thought it'd come from "him"

He is a Japanese musician
who I've been listening for more than decades

Many of my sense of beauty..........

..........how I perceive this world..........
..........what I find beautiful & what I find ugly..........
..........what I accept & what I reject..........

has its root in him

"
I liked you too much
I liked you for too long
And I still like you
I will certainly like you for the next decades to come
"

is the sentences I can say only to him

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However

now I'm thinking

this approach; "Putting clothes above body"

is, probably

not my own personal approach
not my own unique sense of beauty
not from "him"

but

very common
very average
very universal approach that many Japanese subconsciously does

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In Japan
"thin" & "skinny" is the most desirable body

It's a norm
It's a very strong societal pressure
It's a social problem for young women to be "too skinny"

Thus,
a gym is a place where people go for losing weight

They don't want to get any muscles
but only lose weight

Keep one's body thin
Keep one's body skinny

is a very opposite attitude to

Developing one's body
Building up one's body

Therefore
it's possible to assume
Japanese has a very weak, or almost zero interest in their own physicality

Probably, they even disdain their own body

Consequently
their attention goes only to their clothing

Consequently
Japanese fashion tends to be decorative

And in fact
this is a very natural consequence, considering

―1
Japanese wears clothes for hiding their body（read more）

―2
Japanese body lacks physical qualities for wearing European clothing（read more）

―3
Japanese has a distant attitude towards "body"（read more）

―4
Size difference between Japanese man's body & woman's body is small. Therefore, an emphasis on body for differentiating a man from a woman is not strong（read more）

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............The other day,
I was chatting with my "naughty" "dirty" friend

I told him my life-changing moment of
"When did I find a woman's ass?"

He laughed. And asked;

"But Aki, if it's not ass, then what do you see?"

"Don't say 'Hands' or 'Lips'. I'm pretty sure you told me something different that night"

I smiled. And answered;

"Yes, I told you that night. It is..........."