by axxxm
14/June/2023 in Tokyo
"A middle-aged guy has to be fat"
is something I was thinking while flying from Barcelona to Roma a few years ago
A couple of seats ahead, a middle-aged European guy was sitting
What caught my attention was his long skinny legs
"Long skinny legs"
This could sound something positive
But my impression was nothing positive but rather morbid
His skinny legs & baggy jeans looked somewhat fundamentally wrong
Then, I noticed there are only 2 options for a middle-aged man
1 ― Being chubby
2 ― Paying close attention to his clothes & be fashionable
And being chubby is the only desirable option, in my opinion
"Middle-aged man"
Only one image can be extracted from this word;
A guy with extra fat, loosen body, rounded face & dull clothes
"Freshness" he's had in his youth vanished completely
"Sharpness" he's had in his youth were all rounded entirely
"Passion" he's had in his youth was replaced with "Give up" thoroughly
"A middle-aged man" is something that brings us a sense of sorry & sympathy
In other words, he is somewhat easy-to-approach, friendly & amicable
And this is why a middle-age man has to be fat
Realistic, down-to-earth, pragmatic realisations from one's life experiences are cold & bitter
But his rounded face & chubby body all offset it & make it mild
If he has a well-shaped body & good fashion, he could look "too perfect" & unapproachable
And what's worse, it looks he still has enough self-consciousness
But self-consciousness is fundamentally for young people
A middle-aged man should have an optimistic nonchalant attitude, as in "Doesn't matter, life goes on anyway, take it easy"
Paying attention to everything
Over-thinking
Being too serious
Obsessive notions
Being a perfectionist
.......these excessive energy, excessive self-consciousness & excessive sensitivity are suitable only for a young person
Nonchalance & tolerance are what is suitable for a middle-aged man
Unless it's something specifically important for himself, he should not care about trivial matters, that are 99% of things in life
His over-weight, unshaped body & rounded face are exactly a representative of what is inside in him, carelessness & nonchalance
On the contrary, a middle-aged guy who is not chubby has to take care of his fashion
Otherwise, his careless attitude on his look seems just his laziness & his skinny body never gives off a friendly impression but it only looks miserable & ill-looking
However, again, paying attention to one's look is a result of self-consciousness, and self-consciousness is the most unsuitable quality for a middle-aged man
........A middle-aged man has to be chubby. This is the only way for a middle-aged man