2/January/2023 in Tokyo
The below is an extract from my diary in September 2017
"Being happy is the most in-sensitive state of mind
While being unhappy, we can be aware of small things and have an appreciation"
We are always taught like this
"You should talk about positive things rather than negative ones"
But during my Amsterdam period, I noticed somehow talking about negative subjects makes me & other person closer
Probably there are two reasons here
Because unhappiness tells more, reveals more of who she is
When she is happy, she looks very self-sufficient, and people around don't feel the necessity to give a hand
What we can or we should is only giving her a simple recognition
Say, "Congratulations", "Good for you", "I'm glad you made it" etc.
While, for someone who is unhappy, we feel like giving a help & support
Unhappiness requires far more involvement from our side
And more involvement makes us feel closer each other
Also, to me, happiness always seems something too plain, too simple, too bright, too white
Yet, unhappiness seems very grey, multiple shades of grey
Unhappiness looks more complex, more multi-faceted, more unclear, more ambiguous, and so I have to make an effort to figure out
And thus, unhappiness looks more unique & more individual, and I can see who she is more clearly and get to know her far better
Happiness is pleasant yet tasteless
Unhappiness is unpleasant yet tasteful
Or I should say
Happiness is pleasant for herself yet tasteless for others
Unhappiness is unpleasant for herself yet tasteful for others