by axxxm
Modern Relationships 1 ― Over-emotions
25/January/2024 in Tokyo
"Focusing on emotions" is probably a very modern phenomenon
Everyday, we see things talking about emotions;
"Emotional intelligence" or
"Emotional connection" or
"Mindset" or
"Soul connection" or
"I lost a feeling for her" or
"Soul-mate" or
"Chemistry" or
"Love" or ........
This special treatment for emotions
This over-estimation of emotions
This worship for emotions
This being a slave of emotions
is particularly apparent in a relationship with others
The reason must be very simple
Emotions are the only glue that remains us in a relationship now
In the past,
......100 years ago......,
......even until around 1950 in Japan.......,
people rarely moved
Stayed in the same town for the entire life & died there
It means
they communicated with the same group of people
It means
they could not choose who they connected with
It means
their relationships were heavily restricted by the external, environment factors
Time passed
External constraints were all gone
especially for those living in a big capitalistic mega-city
In this day and age,
we have an ability to connect with people who we want to connect with
We finally acquired a privilege of "selecting a relationship"
Happy days
........Well,
what is actually happening is
relationships become so unstable & so fluid
No external pressure remains
We have to rely on our internal, self-imposed impulse,
called emotions
This very unstable,
This very unpredictable,
This very untrustworthy,
This extremely chaotic things
called emotions
A lot of relationships of all kinds quickly fall into stormy waters
This is just a natural result of being free from everything
