Voice messages

I still don't send voice messages, usually

Reasons must be some of my initial experiences with it

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Often — or perhaps always —
voice messages felt like an unbearable "invasion" to my territory

One's voice is a bit
too direct, too raw, too fresh, "too alive"

And often
I avoided listening to them for hours, for days
until I felt "ready"

On the other hand
written text messages are motionless, colourless, tasteless
Basically, dead

And I felt safe

This is the 1st reason

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2nd reason was;

voice messages felt very lazy

It puts an extra effort on the receiver's side

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Voice messages
takes the same amount of time
to record & to listen

A 30-second voice message requires
30 seconds for the sender to record
& demands 30 seconds for the receiver to listen

I felt it was ridiculous

If it were a written content
perhaps a cute boy had to spend 6 days composing his lover letter
yet, the receiver could read, grasp & throw it away into a bin within 9 seconds

Written contents;
Takes time to make, yet less time to consume

Voice messages;
Takes the same amount of time to make as to consume

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.........However
there were some voice messages that felt very nice

I didn’t feel they were an "invasion" or "lazy"

Rather, they had to be voice messages

If it was written, then
what they wanted to convey to me, shared with me, was all gone & missing