'Loneliness in Tokyo is beautiful'

4/December/2022 in Tokyo

"Loneliness in Tokyo is beautiful"

I met this English girl in a cafe near London Bridge several years ago and this is the line she quietly said in the middle of our chat

She told me she had lived in Tokyo for a year

Sitting in front of me, looked early 20s, almost no cosmetics, wearing worn-out clothes like she just came out of the bedroom, yet it all fitted her vibe well..... she said she was working in a theatre......., even from a distance her skinny physique was apparent, as if her sensitivity and fragility inside were unhesitantly exposed to the outside world through her very thin body...... 


A couple of days later, I suddenly remembered her above line

It wasn't because I agreed with it

But because I found this sentiment of her very average, very plain, very banal, very mediocre, very mundane, very vanilla, and I was about to laugh

Tokyo......

......a big city
......shiny skyscrapers
......night
......neon light
......dazzling
......glittering
......cafe
......couple
......crowded
......silence
......cold-hearted
......soul-less
......anonymous
......foreigner
......female
......alone
and loneliness......

99% of us can get this kind of images out of any big cities in the world

Her line was as worn-out, as over-used as her clothes

But then, several years later, now why do I still remember this very boring line of her?

I no longer clearly remember her face, her name, her scent, her warmth, her last message, but only this one sentence


Now I'm thinking, probably because I envied her

She called loneliness beautiful..., this implies she'd accepted it already and even found beauties in it

In my London days, I didn't have such a room/space in my mind to accept my own loneliness like her, even to call it beautiful

I was very much threatened by loneliness


A long time passed

Now loneliness is an integral part of my everyday life, an absolute core of my emotions, of my existence, of myself

Without loneliness I can't live anymore

So now, do I feel loneliness is beautiful and can I finally call it beautiful in front of others, like she did several years back in London?

......No, I don't

I don't think loneliness is such a polite, nice, favourable thing that everyone likes

Also, fundamentally I'm not "qualified" to use this line

This line is only allowed for young fragile sensitive lonely girl living in a capitalistic mega city of a foreign land alone

Only she can pronounce

such a cliché
such an over-sentimental
such an over-romanticised
yet such a dazzling line, like this

"Loneliness in Tokyo is beautiful"