Why women are so pleasant?

*from my diary on 23/Sep/2024 in Kraków

This morning

Walking to a cafe

An old lady, around 60 y.o, appeared from the sidewalk

I was walking behind her for 5 min

During this 5 min
I was feeling so pleasant

Because of
her perfume

And I found myself wondering the same question again;

"Why are women so pleasant........?"

And I was remembering a scene from the previous year

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...........Summer, Tokyo, 2023

I was in a library

Reading a book on a wide long sofa

Someone came & sat next to me

I didn't see the face or even clothing
but I could easily tell

it's a woman

Because
the faint, sweet scent of perfume reached me

And I started to wonder;

"Why are women such a pleasant existence?"

Clean
Tidy
Nice scent
Delicate features
Soft attitude
Sophisticated fashion

If the person sitting next to me had been a man,

then
I must've felt differently
I must've felt disgusted & changed the seat immediately

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Men are unpleasant

Smelly, Dirty, Noisy, Nasty
unsophisticated, uncivilised, uncultured

Vulgar behaviours
Vulgar thoughts
Vulgar fashion

All of it comes from men

(..........Obviously these "exaggerated hatred" about men come from my own fear. My own fear that I'm surely going to be one of these men in the near future, unless I die ASAP)

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Just walking outside

Seeing women's clothing is fun & pleasant

But men.........
99% of them wear dull clothes
with dull colours
& dull patterns

One single woman's contribution to the world's beauty easily exceeds 1000 men

Rather, men reduce the beauty of this planet

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..............Some time passed after that day in the library

My admiration for woman's pleasant-ness became my daily routine

I stayed intoxicated by the fact of how pleasant women are

But one day
I thought

"What is the cost?"

"...........Woman is pleasant
Then it means she must make an effort to be this way"

".........What kind of sacrifices does she make for being pleasant?"

Or more simply,
"Why are men allowed to be so unpleasant?"

Certainly
there are numerous explanations for this matter
Cultural, historical, political, structural, biological......—there are many causes

Even now I can quickly come up with several assumptions

But
I don't need these black-and-white, rational, "scientifically proven" answers

It satisfies only my intellectual curiosity
It means, nothing will happen
My view won't change, my attitude won't change, I won't change

What I want, or
what I need, is
to think & try to know the situation on the other side